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« Grace In Small Things: Part 1 of 365 | Main | Running Around The Internets »
Saturday
22Nov2008

Grace In Small Things: A Challenge For All Of Us

Although I have written entries here aimed at focusing solely on the positive before ("1000 Words About Things I Love", for example), I tend to bristle at the idea of imposing anything remotely pollyannaish on myself as a regular practice.

Too much niceness in others tends to bring out adverse reactions in this Schmutzie. Something about sweetness lined with naïveté makes me want to turn into a shin-kicking, hair-pulling schoolyard bully. I don't, of course, because I recognize that no matter how nauseasly saccharine I find a the-glass-is-completely-full view of the world, I recognize the beauty hiding in the idealism, and it is alluring.

When my counsellor brought up the idea of keeping a gratitude journal this morning, visions of Oprah had me doing my typical bristle routine, but I could see that she had a point, and since growing evermore bitter and prickly has not been doing much for me lately, I decided to taker her up on it.

The world we live in is loud and harsh and bright and demanding, and it is easy to slide into a less than thoughtful survival mode in which we do what we have to do to make it through the day with the least amount of strife possible. This robs us of the time and energy to be mindful of ourselves and those we love and to recognize the grace that exists in small things.

It is with this thought that I am beginning one year of posts called "Grace In Small Things". Every day for 365 days, I will post a list of five things that have graced my life, either on that day or at any time in my life. Feel free to join me. Or mock me. Or, you know, do whatever's in your heart. You can start on whatever day you want, so if you come across this six months from now, don't let that hold you back.

I have even used the Official Seal Generator to create a badge for this project in case anyone wants to join me. Just copy the code below your chosen seal size and paste it into your entries or your weblog's sidebar.


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I am going to start this project tomorrow, and this is the perfect time of year for me do it, because I hate the Christmas season. I hate cranberries, fruit cakes, Christmas shopping, too many family members in one house without alcohol, and seasonal television specials, and this little project will help keep my mid-winter teeth-grinding in check. As will some good liquor. And my lovely counsellor, Madame B, who brought this project up in the first place.

UPDATE: Grace in Small Things has a social network, so come on over, check us out, and join in!

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Reader Comments (78)

What a cool idea, and I am excited that you are undertaking it. It probably would be good for me to join you in doing this, but I'm not sure I am ready yet.

November 22, 2008 | Unregistered CommenterNeil

This is a great idea, and I'm glad you found a creative way to follow through on Madame B's advice without selling yourself out. And you get to inspire others, too. Hazzah!

November 23, 2008 | Unregistered Commentersavia

Grace and gumption, posting everyday for one year.

November 23, 2008 | Unregistered CommenterCheri @ Blog This Mom!

Oh, do I relate so completely to what you wrote. It's hard to do these things, and be an informed observer of the world. But like you say, it beats the alternative.

November 23, 2008 | Unregistered CommenterBlake

I don't know if I'll do five every day, but I think I'll to start this in early December.

November 23, 2008 | Unregistered Commentercenobyte

I will love to do it. Not everyday, but every once in a while. Is that allowed? I hope so!

November 23, 2008 | Unregistered CommenterKaren (miscmum)

Do it once a week, a month, three times a day. Any old rules will do!

November 23, 2008 | Unregistered CommenterSchmutzie

i had to do a similar exercise a few years ago in order to re-remember good memories. i felt like all i had were bad memories (specifically of childhood). so every time i had a positive memory, i wrote it in a notebook. it did me more good than i expected. and some days i hated it because somehow it was easier to be bitter.

i might try this idea too. who knows? maybe it will transform me too. :)

November 23, 2008 | Unregistered Commenteringrid

I am trying ot imagine a family gathering with no alcohol.
*shudder*
Are you allowed to repeat yourself in that 365 days because I am doing the math and that is a heck of alot of things to be grateful for.

All the power to you however.

This season is like a stageplay for me. I go thru it so falsely...

November 23, 2008 | Unregistered Commentercrazymumma

i admire your resolve.

i lack resolve.

we shall see...

November 23, 2008 | Unregistered Commenterslouching mom

I certainly believe that this project has the potential to be life altering. I am planning another 365 and very well might incorporate this idea of yours. This brilliant idea of yours!

November 23, 2008 | Unregistered CommenterSecret Agent Mama

I have done this before, and am glad for the reminder to do it again. I used to keep a separate journal, but I think for now I'll just keep it as their own entries with my regular during the day entries.

I used to write things like: seven hours of sleep, good coffee, a seat by myself on the train. It was enough to see things in a new light. Thanks for the reminder.

November 23, 2008 | Unregistered CommenterBipolarLawyerCook

Really, you hate Christmas? The whole holiday season? I love moments between Thanksgiving and New Years...like when my 12 year old stands up to sing during the Holiday festival,and I know how he hates being on stage...and from the behind the tallest girl in his class, he find me in the audience an flashes me a quick smile..those moments. Thanks for the invitation to play.

November 23, 2008 | Unregistered CommenterKatybeth

I've been given similar advice in the past, and yes, visions of Oprah danced in my head at the time.

First thing in the morning seems to bring max benefit. Every morning when I wake up I think of 3 things, people, or circumstances to comfort me. Not to make me feel pathetically warm and bubbly, but to help me (re)focus.

It has dramatically reduced my snappy sarcasm throughout the rest of the day. If I know I have to deal with someone who aggravates me that day, I will force myself to think of the last nice thing they did for me. It makes Jacqueline me less SOS scrubpadlike.

November 23, 2008 | Unregistered CommenterJacqueline

Thank you for this. I am going to do it as well.

And you're right -- there's something about the Christmas season that drains the gratitude from me. Probably because I hate it so. But this is the perfect remedy.

November 23, 2008 | Unregistered CommenterNora :)

Wonderful idea, babe.

I don't know if I can do it on my blog, but I can definitely do it in my bedroom with my journal.

November 23, 2008 | Unregistered CommenterMaggie, Dammit

Well, if I did I might just say...I am grateful for women bloggers like you. So much to be grateful for here.

November 23, 2008 | Unregistered CommenterConverseMomma

I'm in! you may be starting a movement here... and i'm going to start by giving myself the permission to not do it everyday... but i will give it the old college try. :D

Hooray!!!

November 23, 2008 | Unregistered Commenteri am the diva

This is exactly what I need.

Thanks!

November 23, 2008 | Unregistered Commenterpaula

I admit I’m intrigued and will give this some thought. I’ve been keeping a list in my sidebar during November of one thing I’m thankful for each day as part of the Giving Thanks Challenge started by South Breeze. I’m planning to continue this practice through December and possibly throughout the new year … but since I post only once daily on each blog and since I’ve participated in Blog 365 all of 2008, I’m not sure I want to take on a daily task like this. I suspect that I shall enjoy following along however. I do keep a list of 5 things I’m grateful for each day in my hand written journal, and have done so for many years.
Hugs and blessings,

November 23, 2008 | Unregistered Commenterstoryteller

I love this idea. I'm not sure I'll be able to keep it up every day, but I'm gonna try!

Thank you!

November 23, 2008 | Unregistered CommenterChibi

Schmutzie, you are amazing. I too have gotten so cynical that I'm sort of ashamed even to have a moment of hope in the power of positive thinking. I mean the whole thing just sounds so book club of the month.

But? Then I find myself going through these "OH MY GOD!!" phases where I wonder what the hell is going on in the world. And I think, "Why is this happening?" It makes no sense. And I try to figure out a way to fix it. And I can't figure it out.

I will do this once a week with you. And I'm going to add the badge to my site to try to spread the message to my five readers. LOL

Awesome, Schmutzie. Just awesome.

November 23, 2008 | Unregistered CommenterKim @ Ponytaildiaries.com

This is such a good idea.

November 23, 2008 | Unregistered CommenterKy

What an awesomely wonderfully happy idea. Good and happy thoughts, when done over time, are incredibly healing. I can't wait for next November to hear what your conclusions are after a full year of this. I'll even try to participate a little!

November 23, 2008 | Unregistered CommenterHeadless Mom

I read of your project at Chapter Next, a favorite haunt of mine. I'll be coming on board as well. Keep the faith ^j^

November 23, 2008 | Unregistered Commenterpoopie

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