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Five Star's 282nd Great Blog Roundup Is Brought to You By Moniza Alvi

This week's Five Star roundup is brought to you by a powerful teacher, recovered memories and coming clean, the loss of a best friend, rape culture, a wedding anniversary, how addiction sneaks up and overtakes you, the Fear Of Missing Out, poverty, tolerance and acceptance, and Moniza Alvi:

By Camille Hardy (Own work) [CC-BY-SA-3.0-es], via Wikimedia Commons

By Camille Hardy (Own work) [CC-BY-SA-3.0-es], via Wikimedia Commons

But it's fine where I am.
I'll never make out what's going on
around me, and that's the joy of it.


— excerpt from "I Would Like to Be a Dot in a Painting by Miro", Moniza Alvi

Happy Wednesday!


"Tribute to My Mother's Strength" by Sabina Khan-Ibarra at Coming of Faith:

When she took my dying son from my arms, I let her.  I held my breath until I felt myself leave my body, only coming back because my baby needed me. I ignored the chemical smell of the hospital and instead focused on how much my son’s hair curled like his father’s. I watched my mother whisper prayers to him and adjust his newborn hospital hat making him look presentable, as if he were getting ready for a special meeting.

"Trails" by Tina Rowley at The Gallivanting Monkey:

I both can and can't tell you with 100% certainty that I was sexually abused by my dad. I can because I was. I can't because it's my dad I'm talking about, and the mind will contort itself however necessary to protect itself from something so foundationally wrong. 

"The Day He Went Away" by Eden Riley at Edenland:

If I grow into a wrinkled old woman I'll still be pining the loss of one of my best friends.

Hey Cam I'll try to grow old - wouldn't that be hilarious? I'll grow old and incontinent and have grand babies. My vagina will probably be quite funny when I'm 95. And I'll live this life for the both of us. I'll try feel the joy for the both of us. 

Satire alert: "I’m Taking Responsibility for Getting Raped" by Coco Jones at Coco Jones:

Predator Blaming —Every time someone who has been victimized brings up the fact someone else was involved, point out that they are blaming another entity for their survivor status. They are a predator blamer. How. Fucking. Dare. They.

"And That's Why You Should Learn to Pick Your Battles" by Jenny Lawson at The Bloggess:

Then we got to my house and quietly snuck the chicken up to my front door, rang the doorbell, and hid around the corner.

"We Don't Start With Needles In Our Arms" by Janelle Hanchett at Renegade Mothering:

I don’t particularly love talking about motherhood and alcoholism. It’s not exactly the high point of my life to announce to a few thousand people that I was that mother, the trash, the hated one, the drunk, drug-addicted one, the one with two gorgeous, innocent children caught in the cross-fire. And her, that dirty bitch, selfishly killing herself.

But I write about it anyway, because after about a year of writing this blog, I realized I was only telling you people half the story, and I realized I might be of help to somebody, some day in some way and something, I tell you, something has to make those years worth living.

"Lesson Learned" by Lois Alter Mark at Midlife At the Oasis:

This experience taught one of the most important lessons I’ve ever learned and, trust me, I learned it well.

When you follow the crowd, you lose yourself.

"Being Poor" by John Scalzi at Whatever:

Being poor is thinking $8 an hour is a really good deal.

Being poor is relying on people who don’t give a damn about you.

Being poor is an overnight shift under florescent lights.

"Two Sides of Tolerance: Accepting Others" by Lori D. at A Quiet Week In the House:

It is easy, instinctive even, to divide the world into smaller and smaller pieces to protect yourself. Cutting away people who smell too strongly, talk too loudly, or twitch too often can evolve into intolerance on a grander scale. Assail ideas, not individuals.


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Five Star's 281st Great Blog Roundup Is Brought to You By Guy Kawasaki

This week's Five Star roundup is brought you by dropping a deuce, learning to be ruthless (kind of), fat nostalgia, actively seeking self-acceptance, the end of humankind, loosening up, moving on after heartbreak, and Guy Kawasaki:

By Eirik Solheim / nrkbeta.no [CC-BY-SA-3.0-no], via Wikimedia Commons

By Eirik Solheim / nrkbeta.no [CC-BY-SA-3.0-no], via Wikimedia Commons

Ambitious failure, magnificent failure, is a very good thing.

— Guy Kawasaki —

Happy Wednesday! Here is your week's good reading.


"Stranger Danger" by Avid Bruxist at AvidBruxist.com:

Anyway, this particular stranger said, “You know, Arby’s has a creamsicle milkshake.”

STOP.

WUT.

Now I was at the dog park in Carrboro when this happened, and if you’ve ever been there, you know there’s an Arby’s, like, a quarter of a mile away. And I was like, Fuuuuuuuuuuuck this place — I’m out. I loaded up my dogs and headed for the drive-thru.

"Memoir of a Gay Date" by William Dameron at The Authentic Life:

In person, he is not a mixture of anything, he IS Katharine Hepburn. In short, he is simply not my type. He is Spencer Tracy’s type. I wish that I could just go ahead and tell him this.  But, I am new to the dating scene and have not learned how to be ruthless.

"5 Things I Miss About Weighing More Than 300 Pounds" by Kelly Coffey at MindBodyGreen:

The longer I’m thin, the more in love I fall with the fat body I once had, and with the woman I was before I lost my weight. I’m the luckiest person I know, in large part because my personality and perspective were developed in the context of being a fat woman.

"In Practicing What I Preach" by Christine B. at The Art of Touch:

…I was afraid to have people see my paintings… and then see me. I was afraid to represent myself as a strong and talented artist because I feared being rejected because of my weight. As if one thing has anything to do with the other.

"Adam & Eve Redux (a short story)" by Michael J. Gray at michaeljgray.com:

Adam was quiet for some time. Eve glanced in his direction and noticed a Kindle in his hands.

“What are you reading?” she asked.

“Revelations…"

"10 Steps to Surviving a Breakup" by Jordana Frankel at Thought Catalog:

You are a scientist. He was a discovery, a whole new species. Name him in Latin. From here on in, refer to him by only his binomial nomenclature. It hits you then that you weren’t even in the same genus. Hell, you weren’t even in the same kingdom.

"Beginning Again" by Denise Ullem by Universal Grit:

Each time I come to my mat I am amazed at how long it takes me to join my physical body in the present. And once I am fully present in that stark yoga studio, tears often come. Like buried bulbs, my emotions unfurl in the warmth of my attention.


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Five Star's 280th Great Blog Roundup Is Brought to You By Susan Rieger

This week's Five Star great blog roundup is brought to you by love and subversion, the urge for self-determination, staying sane while mothering, the power of intuition, the bittersweetness of a child growing up, learning to become a leader, and Susan Rieger:

Happiness is equilibrium. Shift your weight.

— Susan Rieger, The Divorce Papers

Happy Wednesday!


"Nobody's Wives, Together" by Marilee Lindemann at The Madwoman With a Laptop:

I’ll treat marriage the same way I’ve treated academia: I’ll resist and subvert it from within. And I’ll continue to argue against compulsory marriage and for the full range of queer intimacies. I’ve always been a firm believer in the value of being able to walk and chew gum at the same time or, as a more eloquent pal put it on Facebook, of being able to balance the both/and.

"Career Counseling: Cowgirl, Detective, or Elevator Operator?" by Mary J. Breen at The Toast:

Girls in the ’50s didn’t get career counseling because we didn’t need career counseling. We didn’t need Free To Be You and Me songs to urge us to choose what we wanted to be; it was already decided. We were told from all sides that happiness lay not in a profession, but in fulfilling our destinies as wives and mothers — or, in my case, in being a nun. Our teachers and parents did admit that if we must find a job before marriage, our options were nursing, teaching, or office work. These, however, seemed tedious and dull to me, and I had better ideas of my own.

"How To Enjoy Being a Stay At Home Mom" by Kim Tracy Prince at House of Prince:

Being a stay at home mom is easy! Until it’s not. You’ve got to find the reward in it, or else you will lose your mind.

"Trust Your Instincts" by Starla Fitch, MD at Love Medicine Again:

About half way through the procedure, my attending had an idea. He decided to take tissue from the eye we knew couldn’t be saved and transfer it to the eye that still had an ounce of hope. Don’t ask me (or him) why he thought of this. This took place well before stem-cell transplants and such. It was just a thought that came to him in an instant, and he followed it.

My attending’s flash of intuition changed the patient’s life.

"Hummingbird" by Vikki Reich at VillageQ:

But this is what I am learning about 12 year olds – in the Venn diagram of the relationship between parent and child, the overlap is growing smaller.

"An Experiment and Proposal On Hope" by Megan Jordan at Velveteen Mind:

I don't always want to be the leader. Most of the time, I don't. I enjoy watching others lead, particularly love experiencing someone discover their leadership talent for the first time. I don't usurp existing leaders and I don't sow seeds of discontent so that I can step in.

But when I do want to lead? I don't always step up. I wait and hope to be asked. I spend my time, while I'm waiting, proving myself and my worth, honing the talents that I know to be useful. That approach is... no longer my favorite.


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