Five Star's 321st Great Blog Roundup Is Brought to You By Elizabeth Bear

This week's Five Star roundup is brought to you by a very loved baby boy, a Rocky Balboa moment, when things shouldn't work out but then they do, creating healthy space for yourself online, what still happens as a result of being female in public, working it out, dating in the 2010s, and Elizabeth Bear:

 
by Catriona Sparks (originally posted to Flickr as elizabeth bear) [CC BY 2.0], via Wikimedia Commons

by Catriona Sparks (originally posted to Flickr as elizabeth bear) [CC BY 2.0], via Wikimedia Commons

 
Every one of us is a minor tragedy.
Most of us learn to cope.

— Elizabeth Bear —

Happy reading!


"Born Still But Still Born" by Emma Hansen at Sincerely Skin:

This is not the story I had been drafting in my mind over the weeks leading up to our due date. I was imagining excited phone calls, a joyous labor, and my crying baby on my chest at the end of it all. But this story still needs to be written and shared as it would have had it played out to my most perfect plan. For though he was born still, he was still born. This is for you my darling Reid. 

"An open letter to the kids who went to prom in Des Moines on Saturday." by Becky Brown at Noodleroux:

Pretending to be Rocky without actually getting punched is pretty sweet. I highly recommend it. You're gonna eat lightening and you're gonna crap thunder!

"How to Untangle a Necklace" by Virginia Heffernan at Medium's The Message:

Unless you spent your wee hours in an Ambien trance, bowlining the heck out of an innocent 12" chain, all that happened is your necklace lay on a night table somehow perplexing itself.

Still, nothing unperplexes easy. And the nature of the tangled necklace is that you’ll forget what you know about its not being tangled.

"Redacted" by Caissie St. Onge at Caissie's Thing:

I tried a number of things out, but none of them sounded right. Finally, I went and knocked on (Redacted)’s door and tiptoed in. “Um, I’m trying to write this letter to Nikolas Enclosure, but I’m not having any luck. I know he’s turned us down a bunch of times, so I want to convince him this time. What should I say?” (Redacted) looked at me, disgusted.
“Ugh. I don’t know. Tell him to stop being such a (redacted – derogatory slang sometimes used for one who displays reluctance) and come on the show!”

"6 Things You Must Remove From Your Digital Life To Start Living Better" by Chelsea Fagan at The Financial Diet:

It’s so easy for a digital landscape to become crowded, filled with people and images and ideas that we don’t agree with, and feel as though we never signed up for in the first place. Sometimes scrolling through our social feeds or even our favorite websites can become more draining than restorative, more stressful than calming, and more annoying than fun.

"I was sexually harassed at work" by Jen Grant at Jen Grant:

When I arrived the organizer and staff were very nice and accommodating.
I get introduced to the stage and within about three minutes I am interrupted by a male (late 30′s/early 40′s) saying to me “there’s a 51% chance that my buddy here will have sex with you. and I will take the other 49%”.

"Tinderitis" by Neil Kramer at Citizen of the Month:

I didn’t fall. I didn’t bump into any blunt or sharp objects. The only medical explanation for the pain in my arm was my three months using Tinder. At night, despite to end my loneliness, I would lie in bed, holding my tablet up in the air with my left hand, and swipe right and left on the dating site with my thumb…

And because you are a fan of finding good, new writing online:

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Elan Morgan is a blogger, designer and consultant, and speaker who blogs and works from schmutzie.com, spreads gratitude through the graceinsmallthings.com social network, celebrates quality blogging with the canblogawards.com, and speaks all over. She has been seen in the Globe & Mail, Best Health and Woman's Day magazines, TEDxRegina, and on CBC News and Radio. She believes in and works to grow both personal and professional quality, genuine community, and meaningful content online.

Five Star's 320th Great Blog Roundup Is Brought to You By Beverly Jenkins

This week's Five Star roundup is brought to you by a confrontation of one's own fatphobia, a temporary daughter, mortification, lessons learned about living with anxiety, white shame and the importance of revealing white histories, the freedom found in ageing, a truth behind body love, getting crabbier by the day, working towards mental health, and Beverly Jenkins:

Happy reading!


"Fat By Choice: Happy (and Healthy) At the Intersections of Size and Mental Health" by Sam Dylan Finch at Let's Queer Things Up!:

Call it a self-fulfilling prophecy, but when I noticed my body beginning to change, I was convinced that my day of reckoning had come. I could be mentally healthy, sure, but in return, the universe was going to issue me a new challenge.

"Saying Goodbye to My Foster Child" by Tamar Fox at Kveller:

It was a low-key evening, but I wanted to make time for it because these are probably my last two weeks with Dafna. She is my foster daughter, and in two weeks she will probably be reunited with her mom. This is good news for Dafna and for her mom — they love each other so much, and I know her mom is committed to taking really good care of her — but I’d be lying if I didn’t admit to being heartbroken.

"Forgive… and Forget If You Can" by Janet Sheridan at Aunt Beulah:

I find some incidents impossible to forget.

"8 Things I've Learned About Anxiety" by Sarah James at Whoorl:

I get a lot of emails from readers about anxiety – many are experiencing it for the first time and are really frightened, so I thought I would put together some things I’ve learned that have been very helpful for me.

"I Can’t Hide Mine, Please Don’t Hide Yours: An Open Letter to Ben Affleck" by Michael W. Twitty at Afroculinaria:

[It’s] unfortunate because of a massive internet hack we are in this particular place discussing your ancestral past. It’s horrible that your private matters were exposed because of something beyond your control. That’s untenable in any situation, but we need to address something right quick… this slavery thing. You were [embarrassed], and that’s reasonable given the situation and the circumstances that produced it. But Ben Affleck, take it from a Black guy; with a platform like yours, don’t you dare be embarrassed to come from an ancestor who held enslaved people. Because… We need to know.

"I Grow Old, I Grow Young" by Sarah Piazza at Splitting Infinitives:

It took me forty-some years on this earth to shed the top layer of worry that cast a shadow longer than any shadow my physical self might have cast.

"This Is My Belly" by Carrie Hilgert at Carrie Hilgert:

I’d love to blame our culture. The one who glorifies the flat belly as the mecca of what is sexy on a woman. And hey, if you have one, good on you. But blaming our culture isn’t what this post is about. This goes so much deeper. At least for me.

"We Used to Be Cool" by Samantha Irby at Bitches Gotta Eat:

i can faintly remember a time when everything wasn't so goddamn irritating. i was young once. i didn't always require 27 advil with a vicodin chaser to get through social events. one time in 2001 i went to a de la soul show that started at 11pm! I USED TO BE COOL. it used to not make me want to dig my eyeballs out of their sockets to be pressed butts to nuts with other drunk, sweaty concertgoers.

"I was terrified of electroshock therapy, until I wasn’t" by Cindy Reed at The Reedster Speaks:

In less than 12 hours, an anesthesiologist will place me under IV sedation. A doctor will attach an electrode near my temple. He will turn the dial on a machine and intentionally flood my head with enough electrical current to raise my brain above its seizure level. I will be allowed to seize for about 30 seconds. The electrodes will be detached, I’ll recover from the anesthesia, and leave.

And because you are a fan of finding good, new writing online:

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Elan Morgan

Elan Morgan is a blogger, designer and consultant, and speaker who blogs and works from schmutzie.com, spreads gratitude through the graceinsmallthings.com social network, celebrates quality blogging with the canblogawards.com, and speaks all over. She has been seen in the Globe & Mail, Best Health and Woman's Day magazines, TEDxRegina, and on CBC News and Radio. She believes in and works to grow both personal and professional quality, genuine community, and meaningful content online.