Five Star's 304th Great Blog Roundup Is Brought to You By Héctor Tobar

This Five Star roundup is brought to you by #GamerGate and understandable fear, what so many knew for so long, a much-loved grandmother, getting over it and doing it anyway, and Héctor Tobar:

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Maybe innocence is a skin you must shed to build layers more resistant to the caustic truths of the world.
— Héctor Tobar, The Barbarian Nurseries

Happy Thursday!


"Why We’re Not Talking About GamerGate" by Annalee at Geek Feminism:

Platitudes won’t explain to their bosses why their companies’ websites are being DDOSed. Platitudes won’t stop bullets.
So before you lament how terrible it is to ‘let them win’ by being silent, please stop and think of a better way to phrase “I want to live in a world where the victims of abuse campaigns have a winning move.” Don’t ask women to sacrifice their names, careers, and safety to the fantasy that life is fair.

"Do You Know About Jian" by Melissa Martin at Nothing In Winnipeg:

God, we ask so much of victims. On one side, we tell them that the price of our belief it to spend a lifetime chained publicly to an incident they usually want desperately to escape; we tell them that the price of our belief is that they make their name public, or take it to police. If they pay that price, we don’t believe them anyway.

"To Be Seen" by Jess at A Diary of a Mom:

My grandmother is not a toddler. She is a 94 year-old woman who has lived a hell of a life… She has a history and a family and successes and regrets and love and loss and joy and, in short, an internal world of memory and accomplishment and LIFE far richer than the stark simplicity of the single room in which she now resides might imply.

"Do It Anyway" by Sara Benincasa at Medium:

The fear of failure can emotionally cripple you to the point that you do not attempt anything cool or fun or great. You lead a life that is small and unhappy, or smaller and unhappier than it would be if you attempted something fantastic. And since most of us fail at more things than we succeed, it seems entirely rational to expect that you would, in fact, fail if you made an actual attempt.
Do it anyway.

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Five Star's 303rd Great Blog Roundup Is Brought to You By Leslie Jamison

Five Star's 303rd Great Blog Roundup Is Brought to You By Leslie Jamison

This week's Five Star roundup is brought to you by a life-changing dog, trying something new, a brilliant older sister who helped her little one heal, being black and good, easing up and taking time, what #GamerGate is and what we can do about it, a rollicking rant about #GamerGate, and Leslie Jamison…

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Five Star's 302nd Great Blog Roundup Is Brought to You By Richard Flanagan

This week's Five Star roundup is brought to you by the arbitrariness of gendering objects and qualities, the fact that serious trolling has serious consequences, rape and shame, living in a no-win dichotomy, the silencing attacks against women online, life with anxiety, and Richard Flanagan:

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by Mosman Library (Flickr) [CC-BY-2.0], via Wikimedia Commons

He believed books had an aura that protected him, that without one beside him he would die. He happily slept without women. He never slept without a book.
— Richard Flanagan, The Narrow Road to the Deep North: A Novel

Happy Wednesday!


"Everything For Everybody: Doing Away With Gender In Design" by Maxwell Tielman at Design*Sponge:

I don’t want to live in a world where a four-year-old boy feels as if he needs to change who he is, because somebody has deemed his so-called “feminine” toys unsuitable. I don’t want to live in a world where women have to feel like they are somehow committing a disservice to their gender by wearing pink.

"Trouble At the Koolaid Point" by Kathy Sierra at Serious Pony:

I do think we need more options for online spaces, and I hope one of those spaces allows the kind of public conversations and learning we had on Twitter but where women — or anyone — does not feel an undercurrent of fear watching her follower count increase. Where there’s no such thing as The Koolaid Point. And I also know the worst possible approach would be more aggressive banning, or restricting speech (especially not that), or restricting anonymity. I don’t think Twitter needs to (or even can, at this point) do anything at all. I think we need to do something.

"The Girl Is Dead But She Still Speaks" at Dead Girl, Inc.:

Imagine you are told you have a body. You are a teen, responsible for its care and told that it is yours, and then told, in a thousand other ways, that it is not.

"No Apology" by Mehreen Kasana at Mehreen Kasana:

Sam Harris may not have told you but we Muslims need our homeostasis at a healthy level. While our bodies regulate our internal fanatic temperatures to remain stable, sometimes it gets a little too chilly so we pull out those diabolical scarves and wrap them around our diabolical necks and diabolically say, “Holy shit. It is cold today, Abdullah.” To which Abdullah replies, “Wallah. My ass is freezing.”

"Keeping the Lights On" by Tim Kadlec at TimKadlec.com:

I have had private conversations with people who point to situations like this and say this is why they don’t put themselves out there. Fear of this happening to them is why they don’t write more, or give more speak at conferences.
We’re losing their voices. We’re turning off their lights.

"Anxiety" by Thom Hoffman at Daddy, Medium-Well:

Awakening is always a questionable proposition, and often feels the unfavorable choice. On my anxious days, I fall upwards and out of sleep, the adrenal surge something electric — like the existential equivalent of touching a bare wire while standing ankle-deep in water.

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